I been with this guy named chris for three years we broke up because of problems in jar, after that we been talking as friends just i have not seen him. now this last week we started talking again ike we going to his house. And I dont know if its a good idear or a bad on. I love him dearly, we almost had a kid plus he gave me a ring for christmas. I said yes to it then a month later like I said we were having problems. Now that we beeen seeing one a nothere everyday and talking everything is coming back, what we had and what I felt is all there. My dad does not like him, He lives in queens and I live in brooklyn. I dont know what to do .
Posted by
Sul, 07:11, 19th August 2004:
Dear Spoiled Girl (I'm sure you're a beautiful girl so took the liberty of changing your alias into a much prettier form of markings known as intelligible English, hope that's ok)
It appears to me that your problems are only occurring when you are in this jar you mentioned. Throw the jar away. Do not go back to the jar. When we are in jars we feel trapped. We cant get the lid off and there's no way that those holes in the lid can provide enough life-giving oxygen to sustain 2 people. It's no wonder you fought. Natural instincts tell us to do what we need to do to survive (I think 2pac told us that as well in Changes. Though he wasn’t very good at practising what he was preaching. "I gotta do what I gotta do to survive", don't get shot, "sheeet nigga I cants do that!").
Don’t go back into the jar and everything will hunky-dory.
But on the flip-side, Spoiled Girl (I did it again, there see? Much prettier), he gave you a ring for Christmas. If you're so spoiled why the fuck are you so impressed with this? Was it used as the keyring on a set of keys to a big expensive car? If not then he sucks as a boyfriend and needs to go to boyfriend training camp. Call 555-PUSSY-WHIPPED and enrol him for September.
I want to keep you both together for as long as possible. It brings a tear to eye thinking about how the dating scene will be alot happier a place with you two guys off the market.
Hope this all helps. No honestly I really do. Keep your chin up kid, it’s sagging a little.
I've been Sul and you've been great. Good night.